2025-09-21 – News – www.theguardian.com
I’m not surprised you’re depressed, you put up with things that make you unhappy. But if you work out what you want, you can take steps to get there
• Every week Annalisa Barbieri addresses a problem sent in by a reader
I met my wife almost 20 years ago while I was working abroad temporarily. We instantly clicked, got married a few months later, and had to decide which country we lived in: hers or mine. For a host of reasons – mostly to do with work – we chose hers. Fortunately, I managed to find a job there, and after a few years got permanent resident status. At one level, that was all good.
In moving to my wife’s country, I gave up my preferred career and much of my social network. I can deal with that. But the big challenge I face is that, while I’ve never liked it much, I now detest the country in which I reside. I intensely dislike the behaviour, the prevailing attitudes, the social and political environment, the city I have to live in, and so on. I just hate it,…
