2025-02-04 – News – www.theguardian.com
When a partner touches me during foreplay, they may as well be touching my knee. What can I do?
I’m a 22-year-old woman who has never had an orgasm. Growing up, I didn’t feel attracted to boys, so I assumed I must like women. As I got older I dated girls and boys, but it would end after the first make-out session, where I would find myself trying to watch television over their shoulder instead. I thought I must be asexual until I realised I do want to have sex when I fancy people, but as soon as it gets to touching private parts, mine feel no different than if someone were touching my knee. The missing ingredient is pleasure. I have tried masturbation but nothing works (I found myself laughing at porn as I couldn’t take it seriously). I have dated and had intercourse with a small number of people I trust and even discussed this issue with them. They were all understanding, but ultimately it led to the end of a few relationships as my partners felt guilty for not giving me…
