2025-05-27 – News – www.theguardian.com
I love my partner, but our intimacy has become a lot less regular recently
My partner and I are in our mid-20s and we have been together for just over a year. They are non-binary and all of my previous relationships have been with women (I am a woman). I love my partner so much, but our intimacy has become a lot less regular over the course of our relationship. I wonder if it’s because of the absence of a strong feminine/masculine dynamic, where one person is expected to have a specific role. Do you have any advice for overcoming this?
Are specific roles important to you? Are they important to your partner? This would be an enlightening conversation to have with them.
Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
If you would like advice from Pamela on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to private.lives@theguardian.com (please don’t send attachments). Each week, Pamela chooses one problem to answer,…
